My Consciousness: What Makes a Great leader

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Good People, 

On today’s episode, I want to talk to you about leadership. Specifically, what makes a great leader? It’s not somebody who is the most charismatic or knows all the best leadership theories. For me, when I think about leadership, I think about truth and spirit. 

When you think of a great leader, who comes to mind? Gandhi? Former President Barak Obama? Malcolm X? With all these people, there’s one thing that they all commonly embody: they are what they preach. They live their own teachings and galvanize others to inspire them to great heights. We’re all leaders in our own way, but to be a great leader means living out what you speak out. 

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Time Stamps: 

[02:40] Lead with the Spirit of Truth: The idea behind what makes a great leader is the spirit of truth. Essentially, whatever the message is inside of a person that needs external manifestation, that message is in alignment with both their words and action. To be a great leader, you have to live what you profess, both out in the world and in the hidden places. When nobody’s watching, that’s when a true leader is created and born. If your words, deeds, and actions are in alignment no matter who’s watching, it makes that message so much more powerful. 

[4:30] Be Your Own Leader: Each of us is a leader of our own life. You don’t have to be a president, CEO, or celebrity. No matter what your role is, the best way for all of us to be the greatest leaders is to make sure that the inside and outside match. When those things align, you can look in the mirror at yourself and think, “I’m going to follow that guy.” 

My Consciousness: Your truth could be your lie

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Good People, 

On today’s episode, I want to talk to you about the concept of My Truth versus The Truth because sometimes we hear people say, “My truth is this, or that”, but the fact is that our truth is not always the actual truth. Instead, it could be a lie or something that we tell ourselves to avoid what is actually true. 

I’ve seen this happening with everyone around me, including myself, and it’s not until we delve into the actual truth, that we can start to see what’s real. Accepting the naked truth is difficult for the world, but with practice and time, we can all be set free by it.

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Resources:

The path made clear – Oprah Winfrey

Time stamps:

[01:41] According to a 19th century legend, the Truth and the Lie met one day. The Lie convinced the Truth to take a bath, naked, in a well, for the sole purpose of stealing her clothes. Once the Truth saw she was deceived by someone who considered a friend, she furiously started looking for the Lie, naked as she was, all around the world. People everywhere turned their gaze away, looking at the poor Truth with contempt and rage. She felt ashamed walking naked and returned to the well, never to be seen again. Since then, the Lie travels around the world, dressed as the Truth, satisfying the needs of the society.

[03:19] The truth is something universal, that no matter who you are, or where you are in the world, is going to be true. There are things about ourselves that are 100% true, that maybe we’re not aware of or we’re ignoring. For example, one unequivocal truth for me is that I was sabotaging my success, whether it would be in relationships, in business, or in my medical career. Whenever I took five steps forward, immediately managed to take five or even six steps back.

[04:46] I noticed this truth about me when I started journaling because it helped me see a pattern in my behavior and things that were happening over and over again. I recognized that this was an actual fact, and I accepted it, regardless of how I felt about it, and only then, I was able to change for the better.

[07:04] One other thing that is helpful in accepting the truth and not ignoring it by creating your personal truth, is meditation. This requires practice, patience and time – it may take years before you can get to a state where you can understand things from a deeper place, but the rewards can be fulfilling. Therapy and really good friends could also help you find the truth since these are all people who really care about you and have no fight in the game, other than to help you be better.

[08:15] Try to focus as much as you can on the actual truth of things because you can make great progress in your endeavors and the path will become clearer.

Heather Parady: Leaning into the Uncertainty

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Good people, 

On this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Heather Parady. Heather is a content coach and podcast host who teaches masterminds for those who want to start their own podcasts, and so much more. She is also the host of the Unconventional Leaders Podcast. Her business and podcast are built on saving time, preventing overwhelm, and helping people find true meaning in their work. 

During our conversation, Heather combines her personal and professional truths, as this true affects all aspects of life. She delves into how she realized her personal and professional motivations were all based on seeking the external approval of others. 

Now, she’s constantly working on rewiring her brain for the better, creating positive thoughts out of the negative ones. 

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Guest: Heather Parady

Resources: 

Heather Parady – Website
Heather Parady – Instagram
Heather Parady – Twitter
Heather Parady – LinkedIn
Unconventional Leaders Podcast
The Path Made Clear by Oprah Winfrey

[5:25] Personal & Professional Truth:  Heather combined her personal and professional truth: that many decisions in her life were (and are) fueled by response and a fear of rejection. She’s lived in fear of being alone and people not accepting the important decisions she makes, whether they relate to the personal or professional aspects of her life. Over the last couple of years, she’s made some major career shifts and taken leaps into things that are a little unconventional. Acknowledging the truth about her fear of rejection has taught her to listen to that still, small voice, and lean into things that scare her. 

[8:19] Find Your Competitive Advantage: Heather talks to us about the concept that we’re all born with a sense of inferiority. In other words, we always feel that something’s a little off with us, whether it’s the way we look, how we grew up, or our relationships with our parents. Heather shares the idea, based off of psychologist Alfred Adler’s theories, that instead of fighting that thing, lean into it. Find out how it can be your competitive advantage. Use it to fuel your mission and find purpose in it. Heather believes that this thing that you think disqualifies you is actually the very thing that can qualify you to make the greatest impact. It’s what makes us human and drives connection. 

[16:19] Rewire Your Brain: Heather and I talked a bit about neuroplasticity: the idea that your brain can be rewired. Your thought patterns can be rewired, changing the way you think. Of course, this is not an overnight thing; it’s more like a muscle that you have to grow and develop. Heather uses this concept to find a way to stop entertaining negative thoughts and start replacing those thought patterns with positive ones. It’s uncomfortable, but that’s an indicator that you’re really doing something right. 

[25:05] Yes or BS:

  1. Anyone can be a podcaster.

  2. The role of wife is easier than the role of mother.

  3. The prototypical southern gentleman is still alive & well.

  4. College prepares you for adult life.

  5. There is too much content on the internet.

  6. There are just too many podcasters.

  7. Homeschooling is better than public schooling.

  8. Building a podcast audience is simple.

Kim Allen: Adjusting Your Goals As You Go

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Good People, 

This week’s episode of The Truth Prescription brings great conversation and new insights into the future. I speak with Kim Allen, psychic and astrologist. She’s been called the “Human GPS system,” as she helps people figure out where their lives are headed. She’s an old family friend of mine. Let me tell you, from my experience, you really need to listen to this person. 

Throughout our talk, Kim shares her story about how she came to work as a psychic and astrologist, including figuring out her own path, adjusting with reality as she goes. She discusses the importance of identifying your dreams and goals but acknowledging the realities that surround those goals. With this, she’s learned what her personal passions are, who she works best with professionally, and the value of differentiating between reality and non-reality. 

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Guest: Kim Allen

Resources:

Kim Allen’s Website

Instagram


Timestamps:

[03:18] Personal Truth: As a child, Kim was told that she could do anything she wants. As an adult, she’s learned that that is just not the truth. No matter how enthusiastic her mom was about it, it’s just not reality. Kim realized that she had to identify her own personal strengths and passions, find a way to combine them and figure out what’s available in that intersection. Without this direction, many people get lost and expect more doors to be open than there are actually are. For Kim, she realized that many doors were closed to her. She believes that there are doors open for everyone, but you still have to approach those doors with reality—the truth—in mind. 

[8:23] Professional Truth: Jodi regularly works with groups of psychics and astrologers. Both of these groups cultivate vastly different cultures: one was very closed off, individualized; the other was very open and provided lively conversations. Through these interactions with these different groups of professionals, Jodi realized that she actually thrives in an open, conversational, “mental” environment. She prefers to work with people who are able to base themselves in reality, defining truths from untruths. 

[21:09] Yes or BS:

  • The Golden State Warriors will win the NBA Championship in 2020?

  • Donald J. Trump will be reelected President?

  • Harriet Tubman will one day be on the $20 bill?

  • The Metro Podcast Studio will have a location in Los Angeles?

  • Kevin Durant will come play for the Knicks?

  • Kim Allen will have her own TV or radio show in the next 5 years?

  • Recreational marijuana will be legalized in New York? New Jersey?

  • 2020 will be a year of ____ for America?

My Consciousness: I Had to Lose it All to Gain Everything

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Good People,

On today’s episode, I dive into a personal story of mine about me before consciousness. I had to find and discover my own consciousness. Being self-aware and conscious doesn't just happen. It's not something you're able to have without one day and have the next morning when you wake up. It takes time. It takes practice and self-discipline. And sometimes it takes certain circumstances to get you to that point. For me, this point happened a couple of years ago.

Through a series of events, I could have never seen coming I chose myself. My health, relationship, and career were at stake. When I looked around these three things became harder to hold onto. However, in a moment of self-reflection, I chose my own consciousness and well-being. And that choice was everything.

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Time Stamps:

[1:52] Back in 2007, I worked in the E.R department. Back then I didn’t know anything about consciousness. This lack of consciousness translated into my work. One night, on the fourth or fifth consecutive night of working overnight shifts, I tended to a patient in tooth pain. She appeared to be homeless. She came into the emergency room around 3 or 4 a.m. My shift started earlier that night at 7 p.m. and I was tired. Nonetheless, I wanted to help and see what I can do to relieve her pain. I performed a dental block to numb her pain until she could go to a dentist for further diagnosis. However, during the procedure, I got distracted and accidentally stuck the needle--previously used on the patient--into my own finger. I found out months later that I contracted hepatitis. I started treatment, but the treatment (and my willingness to comply with treatment regimens) worked poorly. As a result, I ignored my condition and kept on working.

[5:15] Years later I am still working. I’m working a lot. I’m working mostly to stay away from home. My relationship was not doing well at the time and work allowed me to avoid confronting those issues. However, along the way, the condition of my hepatitis worsened. It worsened to a point where I could no longer ignore it and work despite it. One day, I went from working as a doctor to be becoming a patient myself. I realized that I needed to take my condition seriously. In order to so, I needed to stop working. The effects of treatment and medicine would not allow me to do otherwise. So I left work and started treatment. I had to take 8 pills and an injection every day. I was sick as a dog. This kind of treatment felt like having the flu every day. Meanwhile, during treatment, my marriage was still in decline.

[8:56] After having a huge argument with my ex, I had an epiphany. The argument acted as a catalyst for me.  I thought to myself, here I was fighting for my health and I had to ask myself (and her) if the relationship was worth salvaging. For me and my circumstances, I could die or live. It all depended on what I chose to do.

[12:07] From all appearances I had nothing. My relationship was going to end, I was no longer receiving sick time from my job, and my health was at one of it’s lowest points. I was devoid of everything. But then I decided to choose myself. I decided to choose me. I decided to take care of me and my well-being. In choosing to take care of myself, I had everything. For the first time in my life I chose me and there my consciousness began.


Ep: 56 Adrion Porter: Using Professional Branding Expertise to Create the Best You

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Good People,

Adrion Porter joins us for this week’s episode of The Truth Prescription. Adrion is a brand strategist, speaker, and consultant with a wealth of experience. Prior to starting his own brand strategy and consulting firm (AP & Company), he held top positions at Cartoon Network, HBO and Citigroup. Adrion is also the host of the podcast, GenXAmplified, a personal growth and leadership show that focuses on GenXers who are at a crossroads in their careers.

Adrion shares his personal and professional truths about not taking life for granted, living it to the fullest and the importance of cultivating a vision for your life.

One of my mottos is: One Life to Live. This episode is full of gems on how we can make this one life, the best life

Host: Dr. Seku Gathers

Guest: Adrion Porter


Resources:

Mindset - Carol Dweck

Adrion Porter - Website

Adrion Porter - LinkedIn

@adrionporter - IG

@adrionporter - Twitter

GenXAmplified - Podcast

Time Stamps:

[8:13] Personal Truth: Adrion has a number of truths -  he attributes this to constant growth and evolution; the more we learn, the more the truth reveals itself. He narrows his professional truth down to a recent revelation. Within the past 5 years, he’s experienced a number of large life events, some positive and some marked with sadness. Within a short amount of time, a number of his friends and family members passed away. Those losses taught him the value of ensuring that he takes life seriously and doesn’t take it for granted. He also learned the value of making sure that you become the best of who you are and being good to people.

[20:47] Professional Truth: Adrion talks to us about tuning into his life purpose and the evolution that led to its discovery. He studied marketing in school because he enjoyed it, it was a passion - one that eventually evolved into others. At this stage in his life and in his career, he realizes that he’s always been driven to help people become the best of who they are. As he’s gotten older, he started asking himself “ am I happy? Am I living my purpose? Am I doing what I’m meant to do?” He’s tuned in to his purpose in life, helping others amplify and turn up the volume of their best selves.

[30:15] Adrion breaks down the methodology that he created. It outlines the 5 core areas that he believes are the habits and actions taken by people with powerful brands; whether that's a CEO, parent, community leader, church leader, etc.  It’s someone who, Adrion says “when people think about them, when they’re not around, they have a great feeling. They’re empowered.”

5 Point Roadmap to Career, Professional and Personal Development:

B uild

R efine

A mplify

N uture

D edicate

[41:38] We talk about legacy - how important it is to think about what we leave behind and making sure that we do today is “affecting change that will make an impact when we’re gone.” Adrion points out that we have such an opportunity, now, being in this information/social age. It’s made it possible for us to leave something behind for our generations to come. He talks about how my great-great-great-great grandchildren will be able to tap into these doss of truth and that ability to archive is important to understand, especially when thinking about the intention behind what we put out into the world. It comes down to the question, how can we create value? Adrion says that legacy is all about immediate and lasting value that’s, either, archived in content or in someone’s memory

[51:28] Yes or BS

  1. Monetary wealth is about creating value?

  2. Millennials are smarter than GenXers?

  3. Adrion Porter will not work for a corporation again?

  4. Instagram is the best platform for brand promotion?

  5. Your income is determined by the income of your 5 closest friends?

  6. Adrion Porter uses brand strategy in his role as husband?

  7. Atlanta has more opportunities for people of color than New York?